Indians and their obsession with long hair- My story
As a kid, my mom always used to cut my hair and she used to do a great job at that. I have tried many hairstyles from bob cut to step cut to shoulder-length hair. As I started growing up, I imagined growing my hair to waist length seeing movie actors. My parents were okay with it, with a condition that I should wash my hair daily before going to school. So, whether summer or winter, till class 10th, I used to wash my hair in the morning and go to school. Things changed in class 11th and 12th. I got to keep my long hair without washing them and go to school. I was happy with how things worked out for my mane.
Then I went to college. Like every other girl, I tried different hairstyles with the same hair length. Then I got placement and started working. That’s when a new thought strikes me that is to get a bob cut again. Not influenced by anyone, just like that. Keeping my previous experiences in mind with my hairstyles, I called up mom and told her about my latest wish. I heard a prompt NO from her. That was shocking. I asked why, to which she said, its time for your marriage, and many proposals would becoming. Do whatever you want after marriage. So, don’t keep short hair. I understood what she meant. There is some obsession with Indian people to long hair girls. I agreed. It wasn’t a big deal.
2 years later, I got married to my best friend. My in-laws were cool yet traditional people. We were staying together for a while. All was going well, when suddenly after 3-4 months I again got the thought of getting a hair cut(short hair). On a morning when I and my mother in law were cooking, I randomly said, I like to get a short hair cut someday. She promptly denied it, saying no, you have such beautiful hair. Don’t cut it. This time I was disappointed and felt different.
I was like, this is what many of us girls might be going through. Following parent’s advice before marriage and then in-laws advice after marriage, When will a girl do what she wants to do if such a small topic of getting a hair cut difficult? I was upset, more than that, the rebellious child in me got activated. I mean, it’s my hair. Why can’t I do what I want to do with my hair? I told this to my husband. He was cool with it. After 6 months, my husband got a job transfer and we shifted to Bangalore.
Within 4 months of shifting, I got my haircut, short, a bob cut, which I loved it, and my husband also loved it (he had no other choice ;)). I changed my WhatsApp profile pic with my new haircut, flaunting it with my husband. Lovely messages came from all my friends. But thanks to technology, my mom-in-law called up my mom and said, oh she cut her hair, in spite of me asking her not to. Then my mom called me and said the same to me. I replied and in literal words “Mere baal, meri marzi. Jinko mere baal k baare mein baat krni hai unse bolo muzhse baat krne ko”, meaning, “My hair, my rules. People who are concerned of my hair you can ask them to talk to me directly”.
So, that’s the story of my short haircut. At present, I have grown back my hair. It took me 1.5 years to get my hair length back and I love my hair now. In the future, I don’t know if I will go back to that hair length or not. But If I feel like having short hair, I will definitely get it. My experience has taught me one thing. People are rebellious to changes. Once the change happens, they try to resist it but eventually accept it. During the change, make sure that nobody’s sentiments get hurt.